How to Spot the Difference Between Successful People & Unsuccessful People

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Illmind

My name is !llmind. I'm a music producer and I'm passionate about sharing my experiences. Things that worked, things that I f*cked up and what I learned from it all. No guidance and no mentor. I know what it's like to want to create music but not know how to start, where to go or how to turn it into a living. I don't have ALL the answers, but what I can promise is that I will always touch on topics that I have personally experienced. At the end of the day, I hope to empower you to be your best self, regardless of what industry you're trying to pursue.

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What is success? We all have different perspectives on what success means. For many of us in the music industry, it means accolades. It means earning tons of money. It means GRAMMY awards. It means popularity. It means creating the dopest art possible and earning the respect of our peers. It means having a shitload of fans. 

For others, it isn't necessarily any of those things. And that's totally fine.

Lately, I've been thinking a lot about the common denominators of how successful peoples' brains are wired. What they've experienced. If they are truly happy. How they've maneuvered in the industry. An overall observation of how these people carry themselves in comparison to the non-successful. The blockers of success and happiness. The complainers. The "blame the rest of the world'ers." The "I'm the center of the world'ers."

I've met thousands of people on my journey. It's hard to even wrap my brain around how many people I've interacted with. A plethora of personalities. An infinite amount of energies and interactions. Some extremely happy. Some, not so much. And then there are the thousands in between, forever pushed and pulled in both directions trying to figure it all out for themselves.

This is a very complex discussion, with very complex theories. By no means do I have all of the answers. Hell, you might just think I'm crazy. Or, who knows, you might think I'm a genius. At the end of the day, this is my blog, right?

Let's take a close look at these two animals, shall we?

The Successful (The Happy)

These people are such a pleasure to be around. Bursting with energy. Bursting with ideas. It doesn't take much to get them excited. Passion is in their eyes. It's in their voice and the way they speak. 

They don't overcomplicate their brand because they understand that their brand represents who they truly are. They only want to do things that excite them. If they're not particularly good at doing something, they'll either figure out how to do it themselves or seek professionals that can help do their job for them. They understand that they can't do it all by themselves. 

They are "people" people. Creating a community of like-minded people around them is part of their cause. They're patient and they live in the moment. Having a conversation with a successful person usually ends with you thinking to yourself, "Man, this person is inspiring."

The funny thing is, not all of these people are rich.

The Un-Successful (The Un-Happy)

I'm going to keep this short because it's depressing to even type this. 

These people carry an energy that can be sensed a mile away. They complain (a lot). Most of their conversations are about other people. Most of the things they say about other people are negative. They have desperation in the tone of their voice. There's no resolution to anything, just problems. Everything worries them. Bad things that happened in the past are a reference point for everything. Bad things that could happen in the future are also a major reference point. 

It's difficult for these people to get along with anyone because they immediately think the world is out to destroy them. 

The funny thing is, some of these people are rich.

And then there's the middle class. The ones in-between. The ones consistently transitioning from one side to the other.

I've seen "successful people" interact with "unsuccessful people." It's usually one-sided. There's desperation. There's miscommunication. There's lack of interest. There's confusion. It's very difficult for these two parties to be harmonious with one another because they simply exist on completely different frequencies.

Have you ever seen "unsuccessful people" interact with other "unsuccessful people"? Cover your eyes.

Successful people usually flock with one another. They are on a similar frequency. They share similarities. They run into each other more often than not. They are driven. They are forward-thinking in everything they do.

I believe that the word "success" simply means "happiness." So the question is, how do we find happiness? I believe it's found in our souls. Our hearts. 

Look deep into your soul and understand what truly makes you happy. Cut through the noise of your conscious mind and literally find your passion. Ask yourself if you're still (or truly) passionate about pursuing music. Maybe it's making you more unhappy than happy. Maybe you just need more patience. Maybe you're tipping a little bit more on the negative side than you are the positive side, so things are taking longer than expected. Maybe you expect too much. Maybe you shouldn't expect anything at all. Maybe you don't have the time, or maybe you're just not taking the initiative to make the time.

It starts with the mind and truly looking within your heart, first. Find out what truly makes you happy, and focus your energy on pursuing it, head on. It doesn't have to be grandiose. The small things matter, too. It will take time, but know that you will eventually become the very thing you are passionate about. It's never too late, and it's always up to us to either find it now or wait. 

Just know that success doesn't wait. Success acts now. It waits for no one. Success thrives. Success attracts success. So, why not start now? You'll be one step closer to pursuing true happiness.

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